Just wish to share my notes here, that was for a feminist talk I did during “Exploring The F-Word: International Women’s Day 2013″, organized by All Women’s Action Society, Malaysia, held at the Annexe Gallery, Friday 8th of March, 2013.
(Image from All Women’s Action Society “Exploring The F-Word” FaceBook)
An ever changing Asian society very much enhances stereotypical views of gender roles.
In Asian mentality, female on female rape does not exist, while male on male rape is normal, because in society’s thinking only men can own females, and gay men are promiscuous and all about sodomy.
Western influences have taken control of how women and men are to be viewed.
Society has become much more complex when dealing with gender expression and gender presentation, and sexual violence.
Women have assumed their roles as sexual beings for the pleasure of men.
Men expect to get their women as long as they have strength, power and money.
Transsexuals are viewed as less than men, not women, and do not count much in society.
Sexual violence and rape have become subjective topics.
Rape is changing to become physical sexualized violence along with power and domination.
Date rape negates the notion of power, as it becomes more of an obsession.
Media, cultural upbringing and social climate continue to influence society’s shallow thinking of men and women.
Depiction of men and women in movies and songs, and imprint the minds of men and women to know their place in society.
Movies show regularly that men can gain access to women very easily.
Media is getting sexually explicit, with men now becoming much powerful characters, and women, however powerful they are, are shown as sexual objects
Same sex characters in movies are usually depicted as predators, and transsexuals as cheaters.
Sex is becoming violent in its treatment of women.
How all of the above affect sexual minorities and gender variant people.
Men and women are expected to have sex with the opposite sex, regardless whether they love or not.
Gender variant people, especially transsexuals, are defined by sex organs, rather than their true gender.
Nouns like ‘LGBT” is reduced to an adjective and they are defined by actions, and those “actions” are translated in society’s minds by what they see, as social thinking is defined by visible elements.
Rape of (and by) sexual minorities and gender variant people are more common than society think.
Society views sexual and gender roles that do not complement the way they think they should, as wrong and abhorrent.
Abrahamic religions fix genders to their specific roles, from behaviour to dressing.
Abrahamic religions are being misinterpreted to be against same sex people, and believe a man must be with a woman, and only penis to vagina works, citing childbirth and continuation of the species.
Transsexualism is confusing to society, who thinks that sex comes first before a person’s gender.
The role of expectations in gender.
Men and women are expected to fulfill their roles sexually.
Men feel having sex with women is something that fulfills their masculinity.
Women are now expecting themselves to fulfill that role without knowing.
Today’s corporate world demands women less for their intelligence, rather for how they conduct themselves, how they look and how they can be feminine; transsexual females are included.
Sexual violence and fetishism in the sexual minority and gender variant population.
Sexual violence by transgender people are not documented at all, even though it happens.
Aggressors in same gender sexual violence may not be gay at all.
Transsexuals are often sought after for sex; many men think transsexual people are a “package”.
Laws offer little to no protection.
New Straits Times, August 2002, a 25 year old transsexual female in Klang was gang-raped and robbed by four men, but the police only investigated the case as robbery and ignored rape because of the victim’s male to female transsexual status.
Myth: Transsexual females change sexual identities because they wish to have sex with men, and is assumed to be asking for it when raped. This is not helped by the visible element of trans sex workers.
Transsexual females are often the subject of mockery when making reports at the police station.
For many lesbian women who are raped by women, making a police report means outing themselves to shame and prejudice, therefore many victims do not come forward for fear of humiliation.
Malaysian Penal Code 375 and 376 are heavily biased on men raping women only.
State violence against transsexual females in Malaysia and worldwide.
Society expects transsexual females to continue to be marginalized and stay as sex workers.
Transsexual females are often the target of mass murders. Most of the victims are sex workers, and the murderers often use the “gay panic” defense.
Corrective rape of lesbian women.
Myth: Lesbian women can be “corrected” to become heterosexuals.
Documented corrective rape cases happening everywhere, even in Thailand.
Attitudes of men towards corrective rape is often 1) doing them a favour 2) believing lesbians can “change” 3) Tomboys/pengkids should be women.
No reports as of yet in Malaysia. But websites and their commenters have shown it has happened and expressed their own desires to rape pengkids.
Lesbian rape happens.
Victims of same sex rape are usually extremely homophobic.
Victims experience different kind of victims shaming than men on women rape 1) society views lesbians as an act, therefore victims are asking for it. 2) there is no such thing as lesbians raping.
Support groups, however small they are, need to be created in order to address the needs of victims.
Structures become shackles – an adage true to sexual minority and gender variant victims of sexual violence.
The worst victims of sexual violence – police, courts and society often trivialize rape of and by sexual minorities and gender variant people – rape for them simply do not exist.
Gay men are tied to male centric behaviours as do lesbian women tied to women centric behaviours.
To stop sexual violence is to stop segregation of human beings and end treatment of human beings as properties.
The human race has always been about segregation, from what animals can be eaten to social classes, and gender is a form of segregation.
There is no evidence that men and women’s roles are fixed since creation. We can conclude that the story of the prehistoric men hitting their wives with clubs if there is disobedience and dragging them around with their hair is false, and surfaced only within the last few hundred years as patriarchy enforcement became a norm.
Advocates for the nuclear family must support the notion of equality of women and men.
The importance of going against gender conformity.
In fact, in prehistoric times, women did gather food with men.
Biology does should not determine destiny (as corrected by fellow speaker Jac Kee).
Whatever is hardwired in the brain differently for men and women, it does not determine strength and weakness.
The challenge to create equality for all to end rape impunity.
Too much in the focus of the victims, from age to sex to dressing; laws should reflect that the act of forcing someone to have sex is wrong and bad.
Sex is like a country. If the visit is mutual, it is diplomacy. Sometimes, you can buy or rent a land. At times, you could borrow it for awhile. However if there is rape or sexual violence, that is an incursion by terrorists; an invasion worthy of full retaliation by law and order, and at least by security forces.
Gender and sexual identity is not an action and should not be defined as a marker for behaviour.
Laws against rape need to be expanded to include same sex rape.
The bottom line – making sex and gender personal again.
Gender and sex is personal, as it is part of what makes a human being, it determines WHO the person is and is priceless, not for rent or for sale
There should be no limits, nor standards, to how a male or female should look, feel and love, nor should there be any caricatures, or examples of what women and men would be like, not sexual organs or their sizes, or now handsome and beautiful, or even height and weight.
Men should not, and MUST NOT, believe they can claim any women whenever they like.
Nobody owns anybody. They either walk together for the rest of their lives, or they do not.
The body, if it is shared to anyone, it is a gift and a privilege, not an entitlement nor a possession.